University changes your definition of ‘friends’
It might come as a surprise for some people, but it’s actually quite hard to make #friends at uni (or maybe that’s just because we’re really introverted). But we’ve defined some levels of #friendship you most likely will develop during your time in uni. So here goes!
Lecture Friends
Also known as #lecture buddies, these are people you just sit next to during your lectures: minimal conversation and you will most likely never see them outside of lectures.
Tutorial Friends
Your #OG #tutorial group. For some reason, the place you sit in in your first tutorial will be the same seat you sit in in your last. And the people surrounding you will be the people you add on Messenger and ask for help about the subject, or rant about your assignment grades.
Uni Friends
This can be an upgrade from tutorial friends, or just people you talk to outside of classes whether it be from uni clubs, orientation week, etc.. You’re quite good friends, and the conversation flows well, but for some reason you just never meet outside of #uni.
Actual Social Friends
Your #squad, your #constants, your #bae's. These people will be your support group and basically family if you’re an international student living alone. They’re your emergency contacts and they mother you as much as you mother them. They drag you into writing blogs with them and are basically going to be your best friends for life.
My message for today is to not panic when you feel like you’re not making enough friends in uni. I’m sure you’ve heard of this many times: people are just as interested yet scared to start a conversation, so be the one to start it. I’m here today not to give you bullshit advice like that because if you’re socially anxious like we are, there’s zero chance you’re gonna start up a conversation with some stranger. Things like friendships should come naturally - if you’re meant to be friends, you’re gonna be friends one way or another.
Find people who click with you, because uni can’t really force you to make friends like you did at school and your friends will literally define your uni experience.
Hugs and kisses,
Metta
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